You crave closeness but fear abandonment. You likely experienced inconsistent caregiving and now seek constant reassurance while losing yourself in relationships.

(Ell here: This was my attachment style for years. I know this pattern intimately, and I want you to know - you're not broken. You're carrying wounds that were never yours to carry.)

What this means for you:

You likely lose yourself in relationships, making your partner your entire world. You're hypervigilant to any sign of distance, analyse texts obsessively, and struggle to set boundaries for fear of being "too much." You're attracted to emotionally unavailable people because chaos feels like love to your nervous system.

Your core wound:

You learned that love was conditional and that your needs were an inconvenience. You developed the belief that you need to be perfect, accommodating, and needed to avoid abandonment.

Your path forward:

The good news? This pattern can be healed. I did it, and so can you.